Mental load: overstimulation, the invisible weight, and rethinking parenthood

When we picture family life, the focus often falls on visible activities: outings, playdates, home-cooked dinners, and bedtime routines. Less discussed is the invisible architecture that sustains these moments - the mental load - particularly the weight shouldered by mothers. Beneath the surface lies a persistent cognitive labour: keeping mental lists, anticipating needs, sorting events, arranging logistics, balancing relationships, planning, and remembering. The toll this takes can be substantial, resulting in both overstimulation and a sense of chronic busyness. This blog addresses: overstimulation and the invisible labour; societal pressures and the ‘good mother’ archetype; managing the mental load - cracks and sharing; tools for change - fair play and beyond.